If you have never explored your prostate, using a toy for the first time can be a confusing, scary experience. So we put together some tips & advice from our in-house ‘prostate whisperer’ to help your first experience go smoother and be more enjoyable.
You wont believe how it feels until you experience it yourself!
The prostate is one of the most tender areas of the man’s body. Those who are brave enough to put masculinity and sexuality aside and give it a try might still be fearful of doing harm, inflicting pain, or permanent damage. All of this can be avoided and you can enjoy it, even the first time if you do some preparation and pick the right toy to start off with.
Drink plenty of water a day or two before.
Plan a day to embark on your new adventure and then a couple of days before drink more water than you normally do and avoid spicy foods. Being hydrated and having a blander diet for 72 hours before anal activity will ease discomfort.
Having an enema before any type of anal play is a good idea. Not only is it more sanitary, if you use warm water it will help relax the muscles so you can insert the toy easier.
PD2733-00 Unisex Enema
If you wish not to take and enema before your prostate play, we recommend getting some thin latex or nitrile gloves that can be disposed of easily after you’re done. Gloves will also prevent any jagged nails or rough fingertips from disrupting your pleasure.
Be good to your backside and it will be good to you.
Do some stretches. Lay with a heating pad under your buttocks for 15-20 minutes after the enema and before anal activity. This will not only relax the muscles in your behind region, it will give you time to be sure you’ve expelled all the water before beginning play. It’s also a good idea to use a towel under you, just in case.
Thicker lubricants formulated for anal play are best for prostate exploration, but if you have a favorite lube you want to use, feel free. Just be sure if you are using a silicone toy, not to use a silicone lube. If you have a water-based lubricant, have a little cup or bowl of water nearby. A couple of drops can reactivate your lubricant and make it slippery again and last longer, saving you money in the long run.
It’s best to take a few minutes and familiarize yourself with your nether regions using your fingers. Feel around and get an idea for where you are most sensitive both at the point of entry as well as throughout your perineum. When you feel you are ready, apply some lubricant to the tip of your index and middle finger and slide it around the entire point of entry.
You can't handle a toy until you can handle a finger (or 2)
When you are ready insert your well lubricated finger, slowly. You will need to get the entire canal lubricated, so it might take a couple of tries and some extra drops of lube. Once you’ve successfully inserted your finger all the way inside, feel around again upward toward your testicles so you can know exactly where your prostate is before inserting any toy.
If you experience discomfort, just pause, breathe deep and try to relax. Take your time, a mind blowing P-spot orgasm is worth the wait and if you rush yourself you’ll scare yourself off from going through with it and experiencing that pleasure.
PD9718-00 - 1 oz. MOIST ANAL LUBE
When you think you are ready, grab the toy you have chosen, lubricate it and maybe put a couple more drops on and in the point of entry. When it comes to anal play, PLENTY of lubricant is important to make the experience enjoyable and more comfortable. This is another reason its good to have a towel under you.
Insert the tip of the prostate massager and push in gently until you feel any type of discomfort. Then stop, take a deep breath and exhale and try a little more. If you feel it isn’t working for you, just slowly remove the toy and do some more deep breathing and stretches. Just keep trying and slowly, gently explore until you can get the toy inserted in you all the way.
BUT WHAT IF I DON’T KNOW WHAT TOY TO USE FIRST?
If you haven’t chosen a prostate stimulator yet, be sure to check out our post explaining the varieties we offer for the beginner. Pipedream has plenty of toys to graduate to over time when you are ready to take it to the next level.
NOTE: Some might think using an anal desensitizing cream to be the answer. These creams and sprays are better for those who are more experienced with anal play. The people who know their bodies and limits who are ready to push them further. So if you are new, take some time, be patient and breath through it. Once you have a little more experience under your belt and know your prostate better, then you can dabble with some desensitizing sprays or creams to help get you to the next level of play.